How can I improve my avoidant attachment when I meet a boy with a mutual crush

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How can I improve my avoidant attachment when I meet a boy with a mutual crush?

I met a boy who struck a chord with both of us, and we were amazingly on the same page, which I especially loved.

I felt like I was treating him completely differently than I did others; I would be more engaged and more willing to actively share my innermost feelings.


Yesterday he mentioned that he thought I seemed quite cold at times.

He gave me an example that reminded me of a previous breakup over a potential future disagreement, when I was unusually calm and actually trying to avoid it.

How can I improve my avoidant attachment when I meet a boy with a mutual crush?

I later got back together after reviewing the chat logs and felt I had overreacted.


I know it makes him sad, but it's hard for me to change in a short period of time.

Not sure if I'm avoidant attachment, but a lot of the symptoms match up based on the information I've looked up.

Without enough time to build up, I don't dare to trust people easily, and even though I like him so much and know he's trustworthy, there's always a hurdle in my heart I don't know how to get past.


Also, we may be living together this summer, but agreed beforehand not to have sex.

But where should the line be drawn and should we live together or not?

Currently I'm a college student and he's a grad student.

Shouldn't you be more confident and socialize more?