For the last month or so, I've been in a very low mood, I can't move without getting angry, and I even occasionally lose control and drop things, which wasn't even possible before. I'm so tired and drained every day, even when I'm not doing anything. I don't eat regularly, sometimes I overeat, sometimes I can't even swallow a bite. I also became particularly cryful, and my heartbeat often speeds up inexplicably, with some terrible thoughts flashing through my mind from time to time. When I am alone, I always feel that there is no hope in my life, and I wonder if I am depressed.
Hi friend, the depression has been going on for over a month now, have you tried self-testing with a psychological scale? Or have you gone to a regular hospital for a checkup? I'm Yu, the coach of Heart Search, let's have a chat.
Generally speaking, depression has three core manifestations: poor mood, no interest in anything, and no energy. To put it bluntly, you can't be happy, you don't want to do what you like, you always feel tired, and this situation must last for more than six months.
Depressive moods are relatively light and short-lived, and are mostly caused by external stress or bad experiences.
Let's ask ourselves: Have you cared about your emotions and body lately? How are your relationships going? How long has it been since you've gone out for air? Do you eat and sleep regularly? Are there things you like to do these days?
Ask yourself again: what does it feel like when you want to cry? How does it feel when you think of something terrible? What would I do if I didn't have those emotions?
Also think: what would your ideal self look like? What can I do about it?
In fact, awareness is the first step to change. When negative emotions come, try to shout "stop", take a deep breath, don't judge, and quietly watch them come and go, like clouds floating by and leaves flowing away. You can also write and draw to vent your frustration and pain, or yell along with a rock beat, in short, you have to find an outlet for your emotions.
Say something true to yourself: you are having such a hard time right now because you have been hurt in a similar way before and are afraid of being hurt again. Let me understand you, hug you, and love this self that longs to be loved. Honestly facing your emotions can slowly soothe the agitation in your heart and temporarily get out of your grief.
The brain likes familiarity, the days stay the same, it auto-navigates, using less energy but also less experience, and boredom sets in. It's like you said, it's hopeless when you're left alone doing nothing.
So we have to face the reality and accept that we may fail. Failure does not feel good, some results can not be changed, but this time does not mean that the next time can not be successful, successful people have fallen countless times to find the way.
Understand that constant experimentation is a must, but the method should not be rigid. Learn from your last experience, talk to your friends and family, speak up and find more effective methods together, it only makes sense to try again and again.
Keep your mind at ease and give yourself more pep talks. If you don't get through the darkness, if you don't carry the despair, you may be forever nestled in your comfort zone or just envy others.
Of course, there's nothing wrong with asking for help. Since this is something that bothers you, it's not easy to solve it all at once. Find a trusted friend or relative who can give you positive energy to talk to, if you feel the need, you can also make an appointment with a counselor, there has to be a place to pour out the emotions, the heart is not blocked.
Don't forget to take care of yourself, body and feelings hurt. Stay in a good mood, flowers don't bloom in a day, give yourself permission to start awkwardly. You don't have to be full of everything, you can do a good job if you have 60 points of ability, and you will have friends and colleagues to support if you have 60 points of socializing. Every experience in life in the long river of time is just a small wave, think about the past pay a return, the future efforts will not be in vain. Bless you!