I can't stand my roommate, he yells at me every day and is especially disrespectful. However, he was quite close to a few other people, which made it even harder for me. In the end, I had to approach the counselor to apply for a dormitory change. Originally I went because I couldn't stand his attitude, but it turned out that the guidance counselor insisted that we confront each other face to face. During that confrontation, I was so insulted that I barely had a chance to speak, and it all came back to me as he yelled and disliked me. I told the guide that I couldn't talk to her, but the guide said that's how he usually talks. I tried to express my feelings, but he choked and said "I don't want you to feel, I want me to feel", which made me lose all my self-respect. He even confronted the guidance counselor, afraid that I would say something bad about them in the future. Now, even after changing dorms, I still think about those things a lot.
Simply can't get over the hurt she gave me, and the more I think about it, the more upset I get, and I lose sleep every night.
Hey, maybe this incident hurt you too deeply and left a big trauma in your heart. Being disrespected and insulted must be especially hard on the heart, with a strong emotional reaction. If these emotions are not dealt with properly, they will always linger in your mind. When you change dormitories, the environment is changed, but the wounds in your heart are not healed yet, so you always think of the past. You can try some ways to relieve it, such as talking to friends, writing a diary to confide your feelings, or doing some relaxing activities, such as exercise or meditation, to help yourself slowly let go of the past hurt.