The way to break through emotional and life bottlenecks: regaining confidence in life
I have a lot of friends around me, but very few of them can really make friends with me, and I always feel that people are not too willing to get close to me. When chatting with friends, more and more can not find the topic, and even with lovers to communicate has become difficult, often have to find words. See those friends who can speak well, truly envious, feel their communication skills are declining, into a vicious circle. Girlfriend in the field, emotional insecurity, the original two families discussed marriage, she was strongly opposed, and then slowly mediate to ease some. But get along, we think and deal with problems in a different way, easy to conflict, and no good solution, the more grudges accumulated in the heart. I really don't know whether to insist on it or not, whether it's suitable or not. I am becoming less confident, lazy and procrastinating, losing motivation in life, feeling bored and lack of goals.
Hello, dear owner! It's a pleasure to talk to you.
Here's the whale social worker Fairy Fairy.
After reading your message, I can feel that you feel like you are overwhelmed by a series of problems, like dominoes that bring bad luck in all aspects of your life. Sending you a warm hug first, hopefully it will make you feel better.
From your description, I've sorted out a few key points.
First, there are few close friends and it feels like no one really understands you.
Secondly, the relationship issues with your girlfriend are frustrating you.
Third, there is more self-doubt and less and less confidence in your decisions.
I don't know if you've noticed, but these three questions actually have keywords in common:
[Interpersonal Relationships] [Interpersonal Communication] [Self-Confidence]
❣️ There are multiple factors behind everything.
If it's an interpersonal issue, it's much more involved.
Simply put, misunderstandings and conflicts in a relationship can be resolved more quickly if your communication skills are better.
But communication isn't just about skill, it's also about your emotions and willingness.
❣️ Similarly, self-confidence needs to be built with an anchor, such as when you are recognized by others for doing well at work, a hobby, or in a certain field.
It may not be realistic to try to be confident in all areas at once. How about picking one or two goals that are easy to start with, such as getting fit by consistently running every day, so you can find a sense of control in this exercise thing?
❣️ One last thing to add.
Based on the three issues you mentioned, a better order to deal with them would be to address your internal issues first, then deal with relationships.
Because external relationships tend to reflect internal states, internal harmony will naturally improve external relationships.
I hope these suggestions are helpful!
(whale social worker fairy fairy)
