Female, 34, husband doesn't understand me and has no confidant.
I recently wanted to buy a dishwasher, but my husband wasn't too happy about it and accused me of spending money frivolously, saying that I shouldn't buy any air purifiers or dryers.
Then I put on a face and disliked him hard and he got a better attitude.
But honestly, I feel so tired. Why do I have to be strong for men to listen to me?
Otherwise he's always nagging me.
I don't know how to be considerate at all, what I have now is basically by "hard" to fight for, over time, I can't be like before we got married, I can't be a pampered little woman.
What woman doesn't want a husband who knows what's hot and cold and takes good care of her?
Since the only way for a woman to get by is to be independent and turn into a femme fatale, I'm feeling more and more like men are a nuisance in my life.
Hi owner, I can feel your emotions, but there is actually a way out of this, why not try it?
1. After marriage, many things need to be discussed together as a couple. You can communicate with him before you buy a big item or simply inform him and give him some time to get used to it. Say your reasons, such as purifier is for health, than sick medicine cost-effective; dryer is to save time, but also can buy a few less clothes. All of these are for the long-term consideration of the family.
2. You can use the "strong" way to solve the problem, it shows that you in the husband's heart status is not low, otherwise it may not be useful to really quarrel.
3. you need pampering on the inside, but acting too tough makes it hard for him to feel like you need to be taken care of. Maybe he feels the need to be cared for himself.
4. A happy marriage cannot be achieved without good communication. Think about how friends deal with each other when they have conflicts. Marriage has to be at least as good as friendship and fix problems in time.
5. Married life do not expect too much romance, the day to be down to earth. Trust each other, after all, you are bonded by love, think back to the wedding vows, said that we share the same suffering, why fight over small things?
6. Be honest with each other, keep tempers in check, have a good conversation about what is going on at home, and don't let emotions dominate the conversation.
I'm sure you'll be able to get out of this unhappy little mood soon.