We often have a lot of good ideas popping into our heads, but there are always a bunch of reasons why we can't take a step forward, and afterwards we can only blame ourselves for thinking but not practicing.
So sick of this state of affairs! What's the best way to boost your mobility and get more out of life?
Hey, buddy, hi!
Psychologically, this phenomenon of indecision is called the "Brittan burro" effect. To put it bluntly, it's the mental tangle of not knowing how to make a decision when faced with a choice.
Psychologists have hypothesized about this effect: if someone had pushed the haystack forward a little, or led the burro a little, it might not have starved to death.
Indecision is in fact particularly energy-consuming, also often called dyslexia, the person concerned will feel helpless and painful, this emotion waste of time and life. Although the heart understands, but when it comes to things will have to spend a long time to dwell on, or even simply do not move, leading to more serious internal consumption, serious cases will also blame themselves, feel useless.
A few practical tips for you:
① Believe in yourself and start making decisions independently from small things.
Relying on others is actually giving up your own initiative, rooted in a lack of confidence in yourself. This kind of lack of confidence is just what you think out and manifest in action. To make a breakthrough, start with small everyday things and take care of them yourself little by little. With each success, praise yourself and boost your confidence before challenging yourself to something more independent.
If you bite the bullet and make the decision once, you'll realize it's not as hard as you thought. Take the first step and the rest will follow.
②Don't be too hard on yourself
Even top leaders have moments of hesitation. What makes the great ones different is their ability to get to the root of the inner obstacle and resolve it.
③Trust your gut (it's more reliable than you think)
As Malcolm Gladwell says in Blink of an Eye, emotional decisions can be dangerous, but your "gut feeling" is actually a combination of a lot of knowledge and experience that you just don't realize yet.
Facing their own needs, many indecisive people are not out of ideas, but the character of introverted always avoiding the problem, avoiding what they really want, resulting in the decision to procrastinate. In fact, as long as it is not against the morality, not to harm others, what you desire are worth to go after. Don't reject the good expectations, do it and actually have it.