I've been living with my girlfriend for four years, and I recently had a falling out with her over work, and I let her move out in a huff.
After two days, I called her at night to get back together.
She said she never wanted to see me again, was completely desperate for me, and said it was impossible between us.
She deleted all her contacts.
She wants me to stay out of her face.
She said everything was negotiable before she moved out, even if I had reassured her that things wouldn't have turned out this way.
It had hit her bottom.
I just did it in a moment of anger, and now I don't know what to do.
Is there any way out? Is there any chance we can get back together?
In interpersonal communication, everyone has their own bottom line and principles, after reading your description, this time it is really you have a problem, so whether you can get back together or not is still an unknown, more important is whether you can recognize your own mistakes and correct them.
You and the other side of the cohabitation for four years, the emotional foundation is certainly there, just that you are more insecure, a lot of times to her not enough trust, always hope that she first time to reply to you, a did not get a response will be easy to think nonsense.
It's easy to overreact when your emotions are out of control, for example, this time you kicked her out straight away, and although it was an emotional headache, you didn't hold the line yourself, so there's still a lot of issues between the two of you that need to be resolved.
First of all, there is the issue of trust, she did not reply in time because she was busy at work, although everyone hates overtime, but in order to make a living had to sacrifice personal time, she coped with customers every day has been burnt out, but you failed to give understanding and care.
Sooner or later this breaking point will come up and you can think about when you can trust her unconditionally or how to rebuild trust.
The second is their own bottom line, everyone has their own principles, these principles can not be easily touched, just like you have your own bottom line, if she touched your bottom line, you will easily forgive?
So it is recommended that you calm down for a while, reflect on your problems, and then find a chance to talk to her after you have calmed down so that she can see the changes you have made.
Finally about getting back together, this is nobody's guess, but you can properly help her, a girl suddenly moved out certainly not adapt, since she is not willing to come back do not force.
Give each other a little space and time to calmly think about their respective problems and wait for their emotions to stabilize before communicating effectively.
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