As a mom, I occasionally can't control my temper and yell at my daughter, and even can't help but spank her when it's severe, and then I especially regret it afterwards. I always look at my child and get annoyed, I obviously don't want to get angry and want to be close to her, but I can't always do it. It is hard for me to trust her, and I always have preconceived notions in my mind. For example, if there is something dirty on the kindergarten sheets, my first reaction will be to assume that she did it, even if she denies it. I would feel that some of her behaviors are deliberate provocation, and instantly become furious. After getting angry, I would blame myself and worry that I would leave a psychological shadow on my child. My own childhood was very depressing, and my upbringing was full of ups and downs, and I always felt that I was different from others, so I really don't want my daughter to repeat the same path as I did.
I always look at her and squirm inside, I don't want to lose my temper, I want to spend more time with her, but I can't always control it.
I can't fully trust her and often have prejudices in my mind, like little kindergarten things that I always subconsciously blame her for, even when she explains.
I would misinterpret her actions as a deliberate attempt to piss me off and then suddenly explode.
Afterwards, they regretted it, felt incompetent, and were especially afraid of the impact on their children's mental health.
I had a pretty rough childhood, a lot of awkward things growing up, always felt like I didn't fit in, and I really don't want it to be that hard for my daughter.
Hi owner, I can feel your anxiety and self-doubt from what you shared. You know it's not good to be angry with your child, but you can't control yourself when your emotions come up, and you regret it afterwards. I hope my experience can help you. I think we as parents need to learn to "put out the fire" of our emotions and not to let our tempers just flare up. Let's stay optimistic, complain less, think differently, and try to understand your child's point of view. Every parent wants their child to have a happy childhood and doesn't want to pass on their bad feelings to their child so that she can grow up and repeat the same mistakes. There is a saying that says, "Follow positive people and life will be sunny." When you are caught up in worries and your emotions are out of control, your family will feel nervous. At this point, the key thing is to self-reflect, find out the root cause of negative emotions, learn to manage your mood and stay away from negative thinking. We have to understand that no child likes a mom who is always angry. So, first adjust yourself, fill your heart with positive energy and find happiness. There are so many things in life that you have to deal with in a positive way, because a good mindset makes the day go smoothly. Only by maintaining a good mindset can you face challenges openly and live a wonderful life. In addition, less complaining, more sympathetic to others. Negative energy not only makes yourself depressed, but also infects your family. Therefore, try to avoid negative energy people and things, and get along with more positive people, which can save more happiness and motivation. As parents, it is our basic homework to manage our emotions and stay away from negative energy.