This suspicion has been swirling around in my mind for a long time, not just on a whim. The reason I bring it up now is because finals are approaching, my brother stayed home the other day, and when I urged him to go to school yesterday, it triggered more thinking.
Due to his family environment, my brother had some autistic tendencies, and I began to think that he was having some kind of difficulty at school and had come home to adjust his mood.
Or maybe you're experiencing schoolyard bullying and want to avoid it for a while.
The more I thought about it in the evening, the more uneasy I became, worrying that he was skipping school on his own, so I called my mom and asked her to contact the teacher to make sure my brother had arrived at school.
Mom, however, said she knew that already and stated that her brother just didn't want to study anymore.
After hearing that, I just hung up the phone, very confused by my mom's behavior.
In the face of this condition of her brother, not only did her mother fail to correct and educate him in time, but on the contrary, on the one hand, she indulged her brother, and on the other hand, she complained to the bystanders that it was her brother's problem, so that people around her would blame him. When it was necessary for her mother to fulfill her educational responsibilities, she chose not to act, never reminding or teaching her brother, but just obeying him.
There are many ways for parents to do what's best for their children, but not all of them are effective, and many parents force their will on their children in the name of "what's best for you".
1.Is it irresponsible when a parent is aware of a deviation in a child's behavior but does not correct it?
I remember that I was not too fond of studying for a while before the college entrance examination, so I often took the lunch break to sneak to the Internet cafe to surf the Internet, and at that time I thought I had done it seamlessly, and my family did not notice.
It wasn't until I talked to my father later that I realized that he was aware of me slipping out to the Internet during that time, but he never talked to me about it or stopped me.
I asked him why he didn't stop me, even if it meant beating me up and making me afraid, so I wouldn't waste so much time.
My father said to me, "You were no longer a child at that time, you need to be responsible for many things, and you don't always listen when you talk about it, it may even backfire, so I might as well pretend I don't know, there are some consequences that you need to learn to bear on your own."
In fact, to this day I don't really understand the father's approach; while he has a point, is it really not necessary to pull the plug when a child is clearly going off the rails?
It's true that children have a hard time listening to advice during their rebellious years, but is it really appropriate to do nothing because your child won't listen?
Often a child is just caught in a misunderstanding and lacks clear direction, when he needs someone to face the problem together. It's true that some things are hard to change, but it's also important to talk to your child about the pros and cons and let him make his own choices instead of being silent about them - after all, everyone makes mistakes.
2.Parenting is crucial to the development of children
There are many parents who adopt a free-range approach to education, letting their children make their own decisions about many things and rarely intervening even when they are wrong. Although intervention is sometimes counterproductive, it does not mean that it will not affect the child's life.
When parents are completely permissive, children tend to go to two extremes: either they are exceptionally understanding or exceptionally rebellious.
Understanding because the child has experienced so much that he shouldn't have experienced at that age and has learned to protect himself early on; rebellious because he thinks it's the only way to fight the world and thus find himself.
It is true that many parents are first-time parents and do not realize their duties, which is also related to their upbringing. The older generation, in particular, was lucky to have enough to eat and wear when they were young, so they may not have realized the importance of education.
Therefore, when looking at a problem, you can integrate various factors, analyze which are environmental influences and which are personal experiences, and then adjust according to the actual situation and slowly find a lifestyle that suits you.
I am Fanny, the world and I love you.