Good people tend to be soft-hearted, always love to think of others, but this character in the workplace is prone to suffer great losses. Obviously, they are in the right, but they are always forced to step back by those who are not reasonable.
I have always acted according to my conscience and put in a lot of efforts, but does the world really care about conscience? More often than not, people only look at who can talk the talk, who can turn black into white when they open their mouths.
Could it be that my understanding of the world is wrong?
You treat people with sincerity and honesty, but in the workplace again and again frustrated, heart suffocated very much. When you are in conflict with your coworkers, they turn black and white upside down, which makes you even more furious.
At work, you are used to thinking differently and sympathizing with others. This is the flash point of human nature, but in the workplace has become a weakness, everywhere being pinched.
Should you be conscientious in the workplace or not?
It's not easy to say this to death. For example, when I was on duty, I had to take away a suspect. When I enter his house, I see his daughter in tears, his house is a mess, and I hear him complain about the tragic death of his parents and his wife. Can I refrain from enforcing the law just because I sympathize with him? Of course not. We are law enforcers, our duty is to let the wrongdoers be punished, and defend the interests of the country.
What is your role in the workplace? Whose interests should you defend? The boss, the team, or yourself? As long as you think clearly about your professional position and understand what you should and shouldn't do, you will be able to find a balance between sensibility and rationality.
For example, if you are in sales, performance is the core goal for you and your team. In the afternoon you were going to sign a customer contract, but colleagues temporarily begged you to help do PPT, but also said that the child is seriously ill hospitalized, waiting for life-saving. If you agree, it is taking the boss's money to do private work, harming the interests of the company; do not agree, but also feel bad conscience, for fear that if something happens to the child's own guilt.
What to do?
If you are always afraid to reject people and keep torturing yourself with other people's needs, it means that you lack self-confidence and are afraid that rejection will ruin the relationship. If that's the case, you have to build up your confidence step by step and learn to satisfy yourself before you consider helping others.
Why don't good people get rewarded, you ask?
I think you are being a bit absolute. It's true that good people don't always end well, like Yue Fei and Guan Yu, are examples.
Also, kindness itself is right, what's wrong is that you talk about feelings with people who are only interested.
Just like that line in Stephen Chow's movie: I thought we could talk about feelings based on our friendship, but it turned out to be a deal.