Recently a guy has been chasing me and I'm quite apprehensive, feeling a bit worried and intimidated. I was afraid that he wouldn't be able to accept the real me, after all, I don't usually have a lot of contact with guys and I'm a bit scared of intimacy. So, I decided to contact a counselor to talk. Since it was a long-distance counseling session, we communicated over the phone. Unexpectedly, I quickly developed empathy for this male counselor, probably because the distance and the fact that he was doing psychological work made me feel more open. Now, on the contrary, I look forward to contacting the counselor more, while I am consciously or unconsciously avoiding the reality of the boy who makes my heart sing, as if I am in a state of confusion. I'm worried that I'm not digging a hole for myself, so what should I do, please, teachers?
Hello, my friend. I'm Fuji, the whale social worker.
Is the psychological feeling behind your fear that he won't be able to understand and accept your true self because you haven't fully accepted yourself yet either? Maybe you're not quite happy with some aspects of yourself, so you're worried that others will see you that way too. But from your description, the fact that this guy makes your heart beat faster and makes you feel tricky, and that you took the initiative to seek out a counselor, shows that you care about this, or have a crush on this guy, but at the same time, you are also self-doubting. You're afraid of exposing your true insecurities and worried that he'll realize you're not good enough.
Best wishes (whale social worker 🐋)