Life never gives if's a chance.
Without realizing it, you spend a great deal of time at work and then on reviewing for exams.
Unfortunately, life is not like the plan, 28 years old automatically married, the latest not more than 30 years old! Who would have thought that I would still be single, that my age would go up little by little, and that being unmarried would be like a heart disease in society and in the family, something to be rushed and not let go of! I can't believe I'm ashamed of my age! I never thought that one day I would be tripped up by the matter of being unmarried! I also think that girls should get married, otherwise the years will not spare! I understand the reasoning, but it's a huge waste of time when it comes to practicing it... As long as I'm not married, it's a worry that haunts everyone... I don't even feel comfortable leaving the house...
First, a warm hug for you, my dear.
⭐ From your description, I can sense that you feel like it's a mistake to be unmarried right now for various reasons, are ashamed of your age, and the anxiety is palpable.Based on these circumstances, my analysis and recommendations are as follows:
1. Does your stress come from your surroundings or the marriage itself? Most of the views about society and the outside world are instilled by family and friends from childhood. Unlike the instinct to eat when you're hungry and sleep when you're sleepy, social perceptions often come from the influence of elders. You need to think about this: is the anxiety of being unmarried a fear of being alone, or is it forced by circumstances? If it is because of loneliness, then take the initiative to socialize, meet more people, and take the first step bravely; if the anxiety comes from external pressure, then you need to learn to block out the interference, firm confidence, and live for yourself. What relatives and friends advise you to do is just a suggestion. If you listen to them and make a decision against your heart, you will have to carry the subsequent difficulties and regrets on your own, because this is your life.
2, age anxiety is often not a matter of age, but to a certain stage found that the goal is not achieved. Marriage is not a task with a progress bar, you have to work hard to complete. People often talk about marital happiness, referring to the two people after marriage to run a family together, is a lifetime to work on the road. Are you reaching your goals in other areas, such as spending time studying and working? If neither, you may need to re-plan your time and life plan.3. Marriage may not solve all problems as you think. Marriage is a life that two people run together, want to be happy have to pay more effort, more tired than living alone. Only when you have stabilized your own little life first, you will not have your hands full when you get married. Before the age of thirty, career and relationship are not too late. Try not to care too much about age, focus on what you can do at the moment, return to life itself, there may be unexpected surprises.
I hope these suggestions will help you~