In life, we often envy others who have close friendship or love, and inside ourselves, we also desire to be loved, but when true love comes, we feel afraid. Why is that?
Maybe you've had those moments when your heart sours when you see your bestie with a deadbeat and your coworker with a thoughtful partner. Ask yourself, why don't I cry for attention like a child? Obviously want to be pampered, when others care, but habitually say 'I'm fine'. Where is the root of this feeling of wanting to be loved and being afraid of being hurt at the same time?
Hi, friend! I can feel your confusion and ambivalence right now, and I'm sending you a warm hug first.
Why did you become a grown-up who doesn't shed tears easily?
This may have something to do with your family of origin experience.
For example, as a child, when you cried, your parents may have said, "Boys don't cry" or "Girls have to be strong".
As a result, over time, you learn to suppress your emotions and feel ashamed to express vulnerability.
But are parents really all right?
Not necessarily.
Maybe you didn't get enough love from your family growing up.
So now that you're grown up, you subconsciously feel like you don't deserve to be loved.
Even though your heart longs for intimacy, you are afraid to take the initiative and fight for it for fear of getting hurt again.
You can remind yourself that the people around you are not your parents and that they have the potential to give you real warmth.
If emotional distress persists, it is advisable to talk to a professional counselor.
I truly wish you the best of luck in getting out of your confusion and finding your inner balance soon.
That's all I can share at the moment.
I hope my answer has inspired you. I am the answerer learning well everyday.
The world and I have your back on the road to mental companionship. I wish you all the best!