I often can't help but notice people's conversations and always feel like they're talking about me, whether it's good or bad.
This situation is particularly troubling to me and I am in a state of anxiety all day long.
I'm not sure if this is caused by anxiety, neurosis, or some other psychological issue.
I am particularly sensitive to voices, I can't help pondering over those words, I am full of inner conflicts, and I am very afraid of conflicts, because when there is a conflict I tend to lose control of my emotions, and my tears flow out uncontrollably, especially in a relaxed or out-of-control environment, my eyes are more likely to be wet, and I am afraid that people will see me like this.
Even when I get nervous, my movements become stiff and unnatural.
Hi, first of all, a warm hug from across the room! It's great to see you asking for help, it shows that you've taken an important step. Kudos to you for being aware of your sensitivities and reaching out for help.
Awareness is the starting point for change. Try asking yourself when you feel that someone might be saying something bad about you: what are my true feelings and needs at this moment? What can you do at that moment? For example, being brave enough to express your feelings allows others to realize that their unintentional words hurt you and that you deserve to be treated with respect.
At the same time, it's important to understand that being overly concerned about what others think often reflects an internal low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence, and that when you're unsure of your self-worth, it's easy to rely on external evaluations.
When it feels like others are dismissing you, try self-awareness: can you accept and affirm yourself fully from the inside? If you can't love yourself, how can you expect others to treat you well? The way others treat you is actually what you teach them.
Therefore, the key to change lies in learning self-acceptance, developing self-confidence, and improving your self-worth. When you recognize yourself from the inside and believe that you are good enough and worthy of being loved, you will not be easily influenced by the outside world because you are clear about your value.
Recommend you read the book "The Courage to be Hated", it may inspire you.
I'm Lily the Little Ear, the world and I love you.